I Do……Maybe Not
The Rota Fortunae belongs to the goddess Fortuna, who spins it at random is a concept in medieval and ancient philosophy referring to the capricious nature of Fate. The wheel belongs to the goddess Fortuna, who spins it at random, changing the positions of those on the wheel – some suffer great misfortune, others gain windfalls. Fortune appears on all paintings as a woman, sometimes blindfolded, “puppeteering” a wheel.
I believe marriage may be a good idea for some who are looking for a mechanism to lower her / his taxable income. I am not attempting to be facetious; perhaps they truly need a legal contract to make them happy and in doing so, can enjoy paying less taxes………which is always a good thing! I say “indulge yourself as much as you wish” however, if you simply feel you need a piece of paper establishing quasi-ownership of another human being, a marriage license will neither make it so nor change reality.
I believe so many times, a marriage license is no different from a title to a house or a vehicle. It is a legal instrument that creates the illusion of ownership and it allows one (if not both parties involved) to exert control over the other. Some believe the piece of paper is a legal right to impose his / her will, beliefs and force the other person to conform to what they feel are the “norms” of the arrangement. “Normal” should not be defined by one person in the relationship; norms are cultivated and agreed-upon by both in the relationship……not just one. If a person thinks that by having the marriage license, he / she now owns the other person, he / she will be sadly mistaken.
There’s a reason the statistical divorce rates are so high and I believe it is the ‘marriage license’ that many people use as leverage. I do not agree with that principle. People are free and having another exert force or undue influence on the other is simply wrong. It is not the way to form a trusting relationship. Marriage, as with any relationship, should be built on mutual trust, love and understanding of one another. Any contract can be broken and marriage is no different. Just because a person goes to a church or public official and says “I do” does not mean they will feel the same in a few days, weeks, months or years.
Marriage can be a device for holding another hostage; the same May be said about having children. So many people are living in misery because they have children they really did not want however, they have made a commitment. They will give 16 or 18 years of life to another individual and waste an entire life waiting for the day they can tell the other person “Go to Hell! I’m finished. I’m leaving…..game over!”
So many people live in metaphorical jail cells they do not even see; do not recognize they are prisoners and for whatever reason, some twisted sense of responsibility, they are trading their life waiting for a day that will never come. They will be able to leave the relationship one day and in doing so, leave with a clear conscience. Perhaps they feel they are doing the right thing or the moral thing regardless, they are giving away their life second; putting their wants and needs on-hold for another. It is like waiting for the winning lottery numbers so why wait……why put off that which you could enjoy now? Take life and live life to it’s fullest, making no apologies to anyone for being good to yourself!
The protection of Satan is upon His servants. May the blessings of Hell be upon those who serve with an open heart!!!